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The girls' parents Fed no anxiety ab^at performing their

daughter's marriage* They need not search for a match.

They demand bride price. The bride-groom should pay

whatever amount is demanded. If he cannot pay the amount, he

would have to seek a less eligible girl whose parents are willing to

accept the lower brldeprice offered by him.

Men and women can marry any camber of times.

a) Arranged by Parents of Boath ;

Since the families   are already known to each other,  the

parents of both parlies kno;v the merits of either side, and may

hope that aa alliance between them is of mutual advantage. la

this case, the parents of the boy take cautious preliminary steps.

Usually, they send small children to the bride's house to sound the

girl and her family about their intention. The children broach the

subject very gently, in a casual conversation, or in the form of

sport and fun. These hints are repeated at intervals of time.

In case the bride's party responds favourably the Kinsmen

of the bride-groom lake initiative by iodirectly suggesting the allia-

nce in vague and gentle hints to the kins of the bride. The bride's

paresis may feel pleased inwardly. Bui outwardly they speak hau-

ghtily. They allege that the boy's family has a low surname, and

he is not a match for their girl in physical form or beauty; he

is silly aad frivolous and incapable of hard work. Saying how dare

they seek alliance with their daughter ?

Undaunted by these words which every bride's father is

expected to say on such occasions, kinsmen of the youth persist,

at reasonable intervals, to pretend to persuade him to accept the

match for their sake, because they are always there to look after

the welfare of the girl. The conversation proceeds on these lines

for some time; the bride's parent refusing to hear their pleas, aad